Sometimes Relationship Counselling involves dealing with the death of a loved one. Being bereaved can be one of the most stressful and difficult experiences in life.
Grief is what we feel when somebody we are close to dies. Everyone experiences grief differently and there is no ‘normal’ or ‘right’ way to grieve.
It’s very common to seek help after losing someone close to you. It can be hard to deal with the powerful feelings that come after being bereaved.
Feelings when someone dies
- Shock –It may take you a long time to grasp what has happened. The shock can make you numb, and some people at first carry on as if nothing has happened. It is hard to believe that someone important is not coming back.
- Overwhelming sadness – feelings of pain and distress following bereavement can be overwhelming and very frightening.
- Anger or a sense of injustice– Sometimes bereaved people can feel angry. This is a completely natural emotion, typical of the grieving process. Death can seem cruel and unfair, especially when you feel someone has died before their time or when you had plans for the future together. We may also feel angry towards the person who has died, or angry at ourselves for things we did or didn’t do or say to the person before their death.
- Guilt –Guilt is another common reaction. People who have been bereaved of someone close often say they feel directly or indirectly to blame for the person’s death. You may also feel guilt if you had a difficult or confusing relationship with the person who has died, or if you feel you didn’t do enough to help them when they were alive.
- Fear for the future
- Sometimes some relief (perhaps after illness or relationship difficulties)
Grief is a natural process, and most people will cope with help and support from family and friends. For those who need additional professional support contact Relationship Counselling KentRequest an appointment
‘UK Care Guide’ provides advice on the steps you need to take when someone passes away. Click –UK Care Guide
‘Cruse Bereavment Care’ offers free confidential support for adults and children – Helpline: 0808 808 1677 or clickCruse
Problems we can help you with
Relationship Break Up’s or Divorce
Dealing with the Death of a Partner
Jealousy and Suspicion
Infidelity or Affairs
Pre-Marital/Pre-Living Together Counselling
The Impact of Pornography
Why use us?
- Successfully enabled hundreds of couples to relate more effectively and achieve their goals
- Skilled in helping couples open up and communicate effectively
- 97% of customersrebook after their first session.
- BSC (hons) Psychology(accredited by the British Psychological Society)
- BACP - British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
- PGCert Psychotherapy
- We will help you understand what is going on in your relationship, no matter what has happened or what is going on.
- Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
- Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
- Ideally located across the whole of kent.
- We have multiple marriage counselling practices Kent conveniently located to make our relationship counselling services accessible throughout the county.
- Herne Bay
Kathy HoggartKathy Hoggart is amazing! With Kathy’s help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Kathy reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Kathy gained our trust instantly. Kathy quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them.Kathy had a very thoughtful approach throughout our sessions so that they were well planned and logical but also free flowing and flexible and without her being overbearing or dictating the pace. We had quick exercises that we willingly did in between our sessions that also really helped with our conversation during them. The support Kathy gave us to resolve our issues was superb. The tips and encouragement Kathy gave us helped us to work well together during the sessions. We were also able to work independently so that we made good progress from one session to the next. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Kathy gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to.
Kaye BarneyI have recently been helped by Kaye Barney and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Kaye very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.
For Julie and I, counselling was an opportunity for change. We knew we were stuck and needed the time, the tools, the space, the bravery and impetus to begin the process of change.Tim gave us what we needed and at a pace we could manage. Tim joined with us in our exploration so the Julie-and- I duo became a trio with Tim; working together to resolve our issues.After each session we felt empowered to take away what we had discussed so that we may consider this in greater depth in our own time.He was never the passive wall or mirror (which would have irritated and blocked our learning) but an active participant in our striving to move forward .
Clive and Julie
"Thank you for a really good session Trish. We were feeling really stuck for a time. You listened and helped pull us back into a place where we could think and makes things feel better. We are very glad we chose to turn to you for guidance. "
"Thank you so much for everything you have done to help the situation with our marriage. We have learnt a lot but still have a way to go but you have helped more than we can of expected"
J & P
"Just to say Thank you for your help, it has been invaluable and it was wonderful confiding in someone so warm and non-judgemental. The sessions were priceless in how they improved our communication and overall relationship. The tools we've learnt will be invaluable taking froward"
H & S
Sian Jones - Relationship Help Ashford
"We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)""We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again"Request an appointment
Scott and Sue – Great Chart
Sian Jones - Marriage Counselling Ashford
"We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you!Request an appointment
Debbie Fletcher - Relationship Help Bromley
"We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect""Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas"Request an appointment
Debbie Fletcher - Couple Counselling Bromley
"Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address""Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view"Request an appointment
Mr & Mrs Hakki – Bromley
Tara Cratchley - Couple Counselling Tonbridge
"The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))"Request an appointment
Rosalyn and Patrick
Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling West Malling
"It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!"Request an appointment
Elsa and Mark – one very happy couple!
Gaye Mitchell - Couple Counsellor Rochester
"As you know Gaye I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship"Request an appointment
Tim Burns - Marriage Counselling Whitstable
"Having Tim help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much"Request an appointment
Byron & Claire – Whitstable
Sabine Hawkins - Couple Therapy Birchington
"We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time"Request an appointment
Tracey B & Tom
Sian Jones - Couple Therapy Ashford
"Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!"Request an appointment
Mr & Mrs Donahue Folkestone
Allie Markantonis - Couple Counselling Maidstone
"When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Allie made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Allie helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems"Request an appointment
Elaine Brown - Marriage Counselling Deal
"Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy but Elaine put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Elaine help we are closer than ever"Request an appointment
Hayley and John
Sian Jones - Relationship Counselling Ashford
"I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at relationship counselling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel"Request an appointment
Paul & Sue